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Safe-Sexy Tip for April

SENSITIVE sexual health information – must be 18 – 35!!!

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April:  Safe Sexy Tips get LUBED up for summer…

 Due to an emergency circumstance beyond her control, Dr. Teresa was unable to join us in Whistler this April.  Her entertaining, juicy, straight-talk on sex: The Hotter Sex Talk has been postponed to Feb 2014, just on time for Valentine’s Day!!  In the meantime, ski season is rolling into biking and beaching season in Whistler.  So, as the layers peel off for summertime, here is the last Safe Sexy Tip for 2013, courtesy of Dr. Teresa, to help keep the ski bunnies hopping all summer long…

 WETTER SEX IS BETTER SEX is a great motto for so many reasons.  And, while I’m sure we’re all dying for more info on Female Ejaculation, we’ve gotta have at least one teaser to bring you back for next season!  As for now, there are a few important things everyone should know about LUBE.  So, let’s dive in:

 First of all, LUBE is something most women’s vaginas make in copious amounts when a properly chosen person is acting in the right way to make her juices start to pour. This is assuming she feels as safe and sober, so as to be fully consenting. REMEMBER:  a staggeringly drunk or uncontrollably giggling “yes” is not consent in Canada!  Wait till the next morning for proper consent! It may save a lot of unwanted outcomes.

 The yoni–a word I prefer over “vagina”–produces a thick, slippery-slidey, natural lube via its lining, its cervix and the glands near the opening.  In previous months, we covered how to get things excited and engorged, and most of it revolves around the mind/brain–our biggest sex organ–and the expansive clitoral matrix–look it up on www.the-clitoris.com!  When the mind is at ease, and the erectile tissue stimulated (HINT:  the clitoris still the easiest access–keep it moist and INVOLVED at all times!) the slippery juices start to flow. So, please, do not reach for the lube, just to save you vital clitoral time! This is not about making things wet for some other goal.  Making things wet IS one of the greatest goals, and an early sign of great success! 

 So, when do you need artificial lube at all, you might ask?  Well, there are enough situations a seasoned lover might encounter that make bedside or back-pocket lube come in quite handy.

 For one, women who ejaculate copious amounts (next season, we will cover the Who Wet What When and Why’s of this phenomenon) sometimes actually wash away a lot of the slippery lubricating secretions with the more watery/alkaline squirts and splashes of their ejaculate. This means, she and her lover, need to think LUBE–and likely towels!  :)

 Anal sex almost always requires large amounts of LUBE, as the anus is not as prolific as the yoni in its production of slippery wetness.  And slippery means a lot of important things, like decrease pain, injury, and abrasions and all that stuff you’d rather avoid, when you’re having fun. 

 Furthermore, LUBE can be used as part of extended Safe Sexy foreplay, in lieu of bodily fluids, such as saliva, to make things, well, WETTER. For instance, the clitoral head and the glans penis (the head) can be quite sensitive (even hurt!) when dry, and quite sensitive in a much happier way when lubed. Dryness can lead to cracks and tears that increase the chances of bacterial or STI exchange. So, again: WETTER IS BETTER.  And use your latex!

 So, do you just go to a pharmacy and buy some KY? Or what?  I’d say: WHAT!  The lubes sold at pharmacies, for some reason this doctor cannot understand, usually contain things I do not recommend for the average yoni. So many women get reactions to the spermicides and other chemicals in these “lubes”.  As far as I can tell–and please, industry folk, contact me if you have a better reason!–the lubes sold at the pharmacy are there for spermicidal benefit.  In other words, they reduce a person’s chances of getting pregnant–hopefully not only because she won’t be able to have sex for weeks, till a savvy doctor sorts out her achy yoni!  Much like for condoms, I recommend Whistler’s Love Nest, Womyn’s Ware, or other savvy sex positive shops for finding something that feels good too, and won’t deter you from sex completely.

 CHOOSING LUBE:  Do not use oil based lube around latex–the condoms will fall apart.  Do not use silicone based lube around silicone dildos or toys–they will eat at each other.  Do not use glycerin based lube if your prone to yeast or bacterial infections.  Sugar feeds the infections.  So what do I use, Doctor?

 I recommend water based non-glycerin lubes, preferable without flavor (sugar) such as the Canadian made “O’My!” lube, for use with condoms and silicone toys.  I recommend silicone lubes for very sensitive skin/yonis and for the most long lasting slippery feel.  “Eros” and “Pure” made the original silicone lubes, and I have yet to find one that matches these in quality, duration, and slipperiness. Don’t buy the “for women” one, as it just seems to be a diluted version of the regular one, so you need more and go through it faster. 

 Silicone is probably your best bet for any anal play–it’s thicker, more slippery, durable.  Slather it on, externally and internally BEFORE you start and add more DURING. If you are using silicone toys for anal play cover them with a latex condom to protect. Silicone is also the one I most recommend for the big ejaculators–you know who you are!   If you keep towels beside your bed, you should also have silicone lube there!  Watery wetness is not always slippery enough.  And slippery is often desirable. 

 There is a lot of info about lube at your local sex shop, the Love Nest. You can also look online at the lesbian run or woman/sex positive shops like Womyn’s Ware and Toys in Babeland for more information.  If you find something you want online, but not in town, tell the friendly folk at The Love Nest!! They are your local resource, and in the business of making your Lovin’ Lovelier.  So, ASK them for what you most desire!

 Most importantly, I do NOT encourage artificial LUBE as a means to shorten ‘her sex’ (the non-intercourse stuff) for ‘his sex’ (the intercourse stuff).  This just makes her a vessel for someone else’s pleasure by skipping the need to prove she’s into it.  Don’t do it!  And ladies, just say “NO!” to bad sex!  You should be getting wet enough naturally!  And if you feel there is never enough, it may be time to see a sex therapist.  Maybe you have some hang-ups to clear away.  Maybe you need some tips about how to ask for what you really need/want. That’s what sex therapists & coaches do!  So please address this rather than reaching for the artificial LUBE to “tolerate” sex.  Sex is BETTER WETTER, and a naturally-lubed yoni is like an erect penis: a sign of an already good time!

 Enjoy your summer!  Play safe, ride safe, be safe!  Wear your helmets & condoms. See you next winter!

 www.teresawood.ca/Sexy-Ed

@DrTeresaWood on Twitter

 

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Safe-Sexy Tip for March

SENSITIVE sexual health information – must be 18 – 35!!!

NEWSFLASH…Wednesday April 10th, 2013 | For 18+ | Dr. Teresa Wood, guest author of the monthly FTB Safe-Sexy Tips will be at The Millennium Place theatre to give her entertaining, hilarious and very informative Sexy Sex Seminar!!! Prizes, April beaver clues delivered early, delicious food and fun! For more info check out our facebook page!!!

LAST BEAVER HUNT OF WINTER 2013 will start April 11th!  Extra clues released at Dr. Woods Sexy Sex Talk the night before! Will start up again next November 2013!!!

FTB (Find The Beaver) is your one stop shop to sexual health resources in Whistler!  Check out the resources page on our site!!!  Free condoms, birth control, Safe Clinic info etc… check it out!

 

March SAFE SEXY:

Dr Teresa’s Sexy Sex Seminar will be Live in Whistler this Spring!  

This season, in case you haven’t noticed, we are having a ‘Wetter Sex is Better Sex’ theme. In September/October, Dr. Teresa’s Words of Wisdom (WOWs) covered the rip-roaring advantages of Self-Lovin’. You know what they say:  To truly (make) love (with) another, you must first (make) love (with) yourself!  So, if you haven’t read those earlier columns, scroll down to September and start from the beginning!! Re-inventing your sex-life starts here:

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Hopefully, your February was full of FOREPLAY AS SEX FOR HER, as per last month’s SUPER SEXY VALENTINE’S THEME:  What Fingers and Foreplay can do to change your sex life forever…

 

This month, we continue the theme of Making Sex even Wetter with a few things you’ll wish you’d always known about men and women…

About Women:  The more she’s moaning, and groaning, and the more excited she sounds, and the more heavily she’s breathing, the more she is saying “KEEP DOING WHAT YOU’RE DOING!” This is in direct contrast to “YES!  Let’s stop this hot, arousing, juicy activity that I am thoroughly enjoying, and start a completely different thing that will last about 1-2 minutes, be somewhat hot, but then, end so suddenly, that I am again left OH-SO-FRUSTRATED!  And rather …cuddly!”  (the over-cuddles of the sexually frustrated!)

Because we are told that her pleasure is “for play”, we might miss that this may just BE the sex she’s been wanting and needing!

DON’T STOP! The more noise she makes and the heavier she’s breathing, the more she wants you to do EXACTLY what you’re doing for a MUCH longer time! And it’s not about time at all—it’s about satisfaction.  She CAN get there, just keep doing what gets her going till she advises otherwise.

 

Ladies! Don’t make them do it all by themselves!! You’re there! BE there! Help the poor lads out! Give ‘em some direction if they’re lost—no one told them how to do this!  Why not touch your own body (don’t be shy!) and take over on the clitoris for a while, so your lover can focus on something you can’t do when you’re alone! Four hands can be better than two!

And if intercourse is sprinkled in at any time, do not let that stop the clitoris activity!!  Putting a stop to clitoris stimulation can drop a woman’s orgasm stats drastically!  Ideally a woman’s 2nd or 3rd orgasm is underway by the time any intercourse is initiated. Even then, don’t stop! Keep those orgasms coming!  The rhythmic contractions of the orgasmic genitals squeezing the penis shaft will make any guy thrilled he didn’t skip the good parts this time around.  And hopefully never again!

 

About men: when you’re touching a man, it’s the same. More noise, and moaning, equals DO MORE OF THAT! Don’t be shy to ask for advice: Faster? Slower? Here? There? Or ask your favorite gay man for advice!!  He’s likely got LOADS of ideas. (Don’t worry! Whistler ALWAYS has PRIDE going on!) One thing he might tell you, is at least PRETEND you LOVE what you’re doing!

There is so much shaming around oral sex and all foreplay for men and women, we forget that we might REALLY LOVE trying to turn our lovers on for HOURS. We are so shy to explore, that we focus on the known—which is SO LITTLE.

 

Sex is fun, folks! Enjoy giving and receiving! Alternate. Explore! Play!  And communicate!  “Yes that! Not so fast! Harder!” It’s ok to say!!!  Make some noise!  It doesn’t have to be loud, but it sure as heck could be proud!  No lover wants to play the guessing game about whether you’d like to really be there or not!  A little “mmm hmmm!” here or there, can go a long way—or take you there!

 

Try a month of lovin’ without intercourse.  Triple your wetness! Change your sexual outlook! Get excited about each other’s bodies! And don’t let anyone or your mind tell you it’s BAD or WRONG to feel so good, or to make someone else feel so good. Foreplay is some of the best sex out there.  Don’t get fooled into thinking it’s a means to some other end.

 

Imagine that your main goal is to watch your lover have the most satisfying sexual experience ever—at your hands! You want THEM to experience the maximum sexual pleasure, and you are going to enjoy watching them have it, and enjoy being part of creating it.  Now really, take a moment and imagine it! …

 

So? What did it look like? Intercourse? Unlikely. Or, hopefully not, rather, or we’ll have to send you back to re-read December/January/February’s columns!!

Go use your imagination. Play with pleasing yourself and your significant other. Pretend there is “no goal” to sex. Just BE with each other, in a way that doesn’t skip over the things that truly make sex WETTER and BETTER.  If Lorri Petty starred in the movie Mermaids, this could loosely make sense:  Brangelina. See last month’s safe-sexy tip for a few more ideas. And please, DON’T STOP as soon as the going gets good. That’s when you KEEP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING.

 

Please always, BE SAFE, not SORRY. Once your sex life is as juicy as can be, you’ll be so glad you kept it healthy.  The JUICIER your sex life, the more ravenously you’ll want to protect it. In the meantime, just trust that it’s worth protecting forever!

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Dr. Teresa Wood will be at The Millennium Place Threatre on Wed April 10th to give her entertaining, hilarious and very informative Sexy Sex Seminar:  Hotter Sex for Women and Everyone Else Involved.  Tix $/person TBA!  Bring your mom, your sister, your daughter.  Bring your brother, you buddies, your partner.  Just come! Literally.  It’ll change your sex life forever. (LUNA members will have discounted tix rates)

 

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Safe-Sexy Tip for February

SENSITIVE sexual health information – must be 18 – 35!!!

Go with the FLOW: Fabulous February Foreplay For Wetter/Better Sex

Happy Valentine’s Month Whistler & the rest of our World Readers! You are reading the 3rd entry of Wetter Sex is Better Sex, part of Dr. Teresa’s Safe Sexy Tips in the Find the Beaver Program. Hopefully, you’ve read September and October’s entries on this site, and FOUND YOUR OWN BEAVER, and if not, scroll down (or look down!) and start to get to know yourself. Because to know yourself is to love yourself, and if you don’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else. This is not just a cliché. This is a fundamental step to Wetter/Better Sex for women and men. (Please read September’s Safe Sexy tip over and over, & over and over.)

In February, Whistler hosts PRIDE week! YIPPIE! And if there’s one thing straight people should learn from the same-sex lovers out there, it’s that FOREPLAY IS THE SEX for so many men and women who are having SO MUCH HOT SEXY FUN out there!

That’s right! Too many straight people got duped into the “procreation/avoid procreation” conversation, and the focus stayed on intercourse—as if that’s what sex was about! What lesbians could teach any straight guy smart enough to pay attention is that SO MUCH HOT WET SEX can happen without intercourse or penetration at all! In fact, penetration isn’t a necessary part, and rarely a sufficient part, of orgasm or ejaculation for many people—at least 50% of the population!

Not that there’s anything wrong with penetration! In fact women and men all over the world do admit they love getting penetrated, once they are adequately prepared, reasonably lubed, and literally asking for it. In the meantime, or alternatively, there are LOTS of things hands, fingers, lips, tongues and bodies can do that bring the likelihood of orgasm to climactic highs, and make the over-cuddles of sexual frustration a sad truth of the past. Consider that Foreplay is NOT the play before the Sex. Consider that it IS the sex you and your loved ones have been wishing for. This can be a safer way to have lots of sexier outcums and Wetter/Better Sex!

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You don’t need fancy toys (although these can be fun!) Your hands are the best sex toys—and they’re FREE! Dexterous! Delicious! Make sure they are clean! Keep your nails trimmed—at least on one hand! Make sure the fingers don’t go back to front (vaginas & urethras don’t do well with bum bacteria… so remember which fingers went where, and keep it that way! Even if you’re wearing gloves—which you should do, unless you are lovers for life!)

Compared to the ins and outs of regular intercourse, there are many advantages & new angles & actions of a twosome or a threesome or a foursome of FINGERS! Be dexterous! Or better yet ambidextrous! And don’t forget the thumbs! OPPOSABLE THUMBS, folks, is one of our evolutionary advantages! USE THEM!

There are words to whisper, breasts to caress, tongues to linger over sensitive areas, fingers to dip, liquids to spread, erectile tissue to moisten, G-spots to stimulate, cervices to tickle, lips to smack, wet glans to rub against palms, etc etc. Why move to intercourse so quickly? There is so much hot wet foreplay=sex to be had…!

And remember, your mouths usually just eat and talk. Your hands have many more muscles. You can use your hands MOSTLY and just put your mouth nearby for WETTER hand motions and activities. Let your hands do the rub a dubbing and your tongue just hang out for a while. You’ll last a lot longer that way.  Happy Valentine’s Day!

@DrTeresaWood is on Twitter and lives and works in the Sea to Sky

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Safe-Sexy Tip for January

Time for a New Year’s SEXUAL Resolution!

Hey, why not?! Resolve to have a revolution in your sex life! Make your sex wetter this year.  Or better.  Or safer.  Or hotter.  Or all of the above! Sure you might need some extra towels..!  But let’s face it, unless you’re trying to conceive, the focus on intercourse could easily be replaced by a good number of hotter/safer/wetter activities that could revolutionize your sex lives, and keep you healthy & happy.

There is so much fear-mongering around sex and its drastic, frightful, unplanned outcomes.  For some still unexplained reason, this fear promotes MORE focus on the already too-heavily-focused activity that so many people equate with “sex”, that is, “intercourse”.  Fortunately, for men, the chances are up in the >95th percentile that you will have an orgasmic outcome with this activity.  For women, however, that number is less that 10%.  Ugh!  And yet, there are all kinds of people who scratch their head and wonder what’s wrong with the >90% of women who don’t cum from intercourse alone!  The poor straight man wonders why he can’t “do it for her,” while the woman wonders why she can’t “cum for him”.  Truth is, intercourse alone, especially when things are dry ( = ouch!!!) is just NOT how most women get wet enough to enjoy anything enough to reach orgasm.  And let’s face it, it’s SEXY when your lover is as turned on as you are!

So how do we make things wetter?  Well, next month we talk about FOREPLAY for better/wetter sex, in detail; the following month pros/cons/how-to’s of LUBE; and the month after, we uncover the wonderful world of Female Ejaculation/Amrita/Gushing/Ejanulation.

This month:  some fundamentals!!  Women:  find your clitoris; touch it; wet it with your own vaginal juices or your own saliva (if you’re not prone to cold sores = herpes); rub soft, med, hard; try slow, fast, light, rough, sideways, up/down, vibes, shower heads, bath hoses, whatever!  Just find it, use it, and let your mind go WHEREVER IT WANTS while you’re at it.  Men with female lovers:  I could tell you to spend all day looking for the erectile-tissue-jackpot-of-her-dreams, and figure out how to go fast enough, slow enough, this way enough, that way enough, OR, I could tell you an easy trick:  invite/encourage her to show you how! If she’s shy, encourage more!  If she doesn’t know the answer herself, explore together, and encourage self-pleasure (tell her to read my September SafeSexyTip, or see a sex therapist–there are answers and help!) And if safe, healthy, sober partner choice, and proper protection allows for mutually desired intercourse, encourage her to keep showing you how it’s done DURING the intercourse. A woman without her hand between her legs is one who will likely remain a bit frustrated after her man’s said and done.  Let’s make it HOT for women to touch their SPOT!  The outcum is spectacular for everyone! So encourage, watch, wet, wait, and win—a brand new sex life experience.   Happy New Year to you!

Do remember:  all body fluids can transmit viruses.  For example, your own saliva can spread herpes to your own genitals to be freshly handed out to your partners.  Other people’s saliva can carry herpes even when they don’t have an active cold sore.  Genital herpes is transmitted even in the absence of visible or painful herpes lesions, and can be passed to contacted genitals or mouths or bums or breasts or skin–even via shared ChapStick! Remember, viruses like to party as much as you do.

So I re-emphasize:  the safest sex you can have is with yourself.  And you deserve to be your hottest lover–so practice Self-Love (see Sept/Oct Safe Sexy Tips).  Make Self-Love Hot & Sexy.

Sex with others this year, can focus on carefully-chosen, sober partners, and well-protected fun:  condoms for vaginal, oral, anal penetration; dental dams for other oral sex and gloves for fingers/hands/etc in vaginal, testicular, or anal areas.  Protection is as HOT as you make it!  MAKE SAFE SEX HOT!  And MAKE HOT SEX SAFE!  Your LIFE-LONG SEX-LIFE is worth the investment!

It’s time for a sexual resolution!  Have a Happy Healthy 2013!

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Safe-Sexy Tip for December

IS WETTER SEX BETTER SEX?

Welcome to Winter in Whistler!  Or if you are joining us from elsewhere, Willkommen,  歡迎光臨, Bienvenue, Добро пожаловать, Bienvenidos, ようこそ, Välkomna!

Moods and mounds of snow are on the up and up, as the rainforest’s November morphs into white-powder December!!  Don’t forget that if you are in Whistler, or any other resort town or metropolitan area, you always want to leave here as healthy as you came.  Be safe, not sorry–in sex and snow!

Safe Sexy Tips by Dr. Teresa will continue to cover HOT topics to help you stay healthy in your choices, and at the top of your game, through the winter in Whistler–or wherever you are reading this!

This winter we will cover the important theme of Making Safe Sex… Wetter!  Yup, you heard me.  There are many topics to cover in this area, and we will take them one at a time.

1) Intro to Body Fluids

2) Foreplay & fluids

3) To Lube or not to Lube

4) Jack & Jane (Need to knows Re: ejaculation & female ejaculation).

So tune in next month for session one on Wetter Sex is Better Sex.  In the mean time, go get tested!  You are entering one of the most active areas in the world for outdoor activities, and also indoor activities.  We see more new cases of Chlamydia and Herpes here than almost anywhere.  Don’t be silly.  Be safe.  You have come to a place where helmets are considered COOL, and condoms HOT.  Don’t be foolish: if you play here, play safe, covered that HEAD!

Visit the SAFE CLINIC in Whistler Health Care Center, or any other medical clinic in town, wherever you live, for sexual health screening.  You can ask for an STI screen (Sexually Transmitted Infections) and this will screen for HIV, hepatitis A/B/C, Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Syphilis.  It will not screen for Herpes, but if you are worried about Herpes, or anything else, talk to us:  Sexual Health Nurses, Doctors, Therapists, Health educators.  Talk to us about how to protect against, prevent, treat or deal with any of these infections.

Most importantly: You came here to LIVE!  WEAR YOUR HELMETS AND LATEX!

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Safe-Sexy Tip for November

SAFE SEXY VIBES:  The Good, the Bad and the Ugly.

Welcome to Welcome Week in Whistler: Where People and Viruses come to Party and Play!  We REALLY want you to have SO MUCH FUN here, AND we want you to go home happy and healthy!!  Our Safe Sexy Tips are designed to help enhance your sex life, while reminding you of important things, like:  that cold sores like lips of all varieties… and penises too!

Last month, we uncovered that the human body (all genders) is covered with vibration sensors that are strongest around the female and male EXTERNAL (not internal) genitalia.  Lots of people focus on intercourse for sex, because, well, that’s all we were ever allowed to talk about—or not talk about really loud.  But vibrators or fast-moving fingertips all over the clitoris, nipples, scrotum, penis, and perineum can make intercourse seem like it’s missing some really important points!  ‘Cause it is!  And vibration sex can cause pleasure beyond measure!  So this month, we are covering what kind of vibration aids (vibrators) one might buy if their water bills are getting too high from bathtub hose use at home.   (Please read Sept & Oct Safe-Sexy Tip for more background!)

A Good Vibrating toy does not replace your desire to meet the right sex partner someday.  But it can certainly curb hormone-driven, peer-pressured, substance-altered questionable choices on the matter!  Image yourself as an aware, satisfied, self-sufficient being, who only chooses partners who stand a chance of raising the bar on your “alone time”!

So let’s set the bar high:

A Good Vibrating toy fits YOUR preferences, lasts a good while (but never forever, sadly), and stimulates your erectile tissue, while you… enjoy!  So, if you usually like penetration, you want toys that penetrate, and are made of SAFE MATERIAL for such things; if you like G-spot play, find a toy that does that.  Don’t be afraid to read up on them, and read customer reviews at Safe, Sexy, Women Positive/ Men Positive /Sex Positive sites like www.Womynware.com or www.goodvibes.com

If you want quality, remember that, historically, Japanese & German machines are known for their enduring, quality rides! I’m not just talking about vehicles…  Also, a few great small companies have made clitoral and erectile tissue pleasure their focus.  Great results can be expected.

In general, most women need clitoral stimulation of some sort for orgasm, so don’t miss this VERY IMPORTANT point, amidst the distractions! The Mini Pearl (~28$) is an excellent, cheap, clitoris vibe, with a U-dial control, so you can increase or decrease vibration frequency as your clitoris’ mood changes—because it will. Or, for the all-time classic champion external vibrator:  Hitachi Magic Wand (~80$) is a durable, long-lasting, hardy favorite, which doubles as a body massager—how it was originally marketed!

Couples benefit from hands-free toys like the (not cheap, but verrrry interesting) cock ring/ clitoris stimulator: Mio by Je Joue.  Or its MUCH CHEAPER cousin:  O-joy.

For those who like penetration and/or G-spot attention while vibrating where it counts, on the outside, check out the variety of Rabbit vibes: Horny Hare, Aqua Rabbit that do IT ALL (~60-125$).  Read some reviews, see what they do, explore!

ALWAYS clean your vibes between uses as directed on packaging.  And ALWAYS use condoms on your toys, if they are ever shared or if they are made of porous material that can house body fluids!  (Silicone is a non-porous option, so very easy to keep clean.  Please note:  DO NOT use silicone lube with Silicone toys, as they will break down.)

And don’t forget to thank yourself regularly for the great time you had… alone!    Remember:  Alone is not Lonely!   Alone is HOT, Safe and Sexy.  Besides, you gain good knowledge to share with someone else who’s worth it, when they arrive in your life.

Follow @DrTeresaWood on Twitter for more WOWs about a Safe Sexy Life!

TUNE IN NEXT MONTH for Dr. Teresa’s WOWs (Words of Wisdom)

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Safe-Sexy Tip for October

Good Vibe WOWs for Whistler Winters!!!

Males and Females alike have vibration-sensors ALL OVER their bodies, especially between their legs! So why spread STI’s when we can spread the GOOD VIBES…!

Last month, we were reminded that some of the Hottest Sex—and Safest Sex!!—we could all be having is with ourselves! (See September’s Safe Sexy Tip) Some of us are out of practice, others don’t know where to start, others still are wondering how to bring such good vibes into their relationships.  So how ‘bout some WOWs (Words of Wisdom) about spreading the GOOD VIBRATIONS!

Men & women alike have vibration-sensors ALL OVER their external genitalia, and these extend about 1-2 inches (3-5cm) INTO the genital orifices. That means that vibrating toys, water jets, and fast moving fingers can be pleasing to the clitoris, penis, nipples, perineum, labia, anus, and just inside both the vagina and anus.  So you’ll be pleased to know that good vibes (and vibrators!) can often be used to everyone’s advantage, in partner sex as well—if and when you have a Safe-Sexy partner.  If a partner thinks it’s weird, or they feel threatened, gently remind them of how much work it can save them to have a buddy on the O-team!  And don’t forget to run it over their parts too, so they feel included!

But safety first! Remember, you don’t need a partner to have the greatest safe-sex!  You will, however, benefit from good (& well-placed) vibrations on your external (outside) genitals.  “Good vibrations” can be felt by rubbing your fingers slowly or quickly, and gently or firmly, back/forth, up/down, circling, or in a tapping motion on the erectile tissue, e.g. clitoris, scrotum, penis, nipples– running a jet of water from bathtub hose onto them, or using a well-chosen store-bought vibrator.  Don’t forget to keep toys clean.

 

Follow @DrTeresaWood on Twitter for more WOWs about a Safe Sexy Life!

TUNE IN NEXT MONTH for Dr. Teresa’s WOWs (Words of Wisdom) on finding the right VIBE for self-love or shared-love.  VIBES: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly.

 

 

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